I haven’t come across anyone who isn’t desirous of succeeding or improving their lives; more often than not, people just don’t know how to develop themselves and succeed. If this speaks to you, worry not, I have discussed some time-tested Personal Growth and Success tips from people who were (are) not only successful but universally respected.
Enduring Personal Growth Tips from some truly Inspirational People
1. Take Responsibility
Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.
It is difficult to make any headway in life if we leave things to chance, or to other people. Even if by serendipity or inheritance, we find some measure of success, we will never really maximize our true potentials without taking responsibility for our lives.
Similarly, when things go wrong, or when crises come – and they do – it’s easier to find the right formula to lift ourselves back up if we have always assumed responsibility for happenings in your life.
For example, an adult child might struggle initially due to a sudden loss of benefactors, but if he had always taken responsibility for events in his life, he will soon bounce back after the initial shock. He will cope much better than someone who plays the victim in the same situation.
The bottom line is, there are many things that are not directly under our control, but through our thoughts, beliefs, and actions, we can still largely shape our destiny.
2. Be Daring and Ambitious
Don’t be scared to be ambitious. It’s not a humiliation to have a high target and to fail. For me, the real humiliation is to have a target and not to give everything to reach it.
This quote speaks to arguably the biggest impediment to a person’s growth or success – FEAR.
If you are ambitious and you try to realize it, if you fail, you will learn from it and you will also grow. If you try again, applying the lessons you learnt, you have a big chance of succeeding eventually. And you will even be prouder of your journey to success.
However, if we are stifled by fear of failure or fear of humiliation and we don’t even try to pursue our dreams, permanent failure is not probable, it is certain. And we will also miss out on the opportunity to learn and grow.
If ever you read only one book on chasing and fulfilling your dreams, read Paulo Coelho’s The Alchemist.
3. Stop Making Excuses
If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse.
If you find yourself always making excuses when trying to achieve your goals or improve your circumstances, you have to start questioning your desire to succeed.
If your desire to succeed is greater than the obstacles on your mission to success, allowing those impediments to stop you will never be an option, in stead you will always dig deep and find ways to overcome them.
The way of a winner is to grow bigger than their problems and limitations, but the way of a loser is to accept defeat.
4. Be Prepared to Suffer
You can suffer the pain of change or suffer remaining the way you are.
There is no growth without pain; therefore, to succeed, you must be prepared to suffer. You have to get out of your comfort zone.
5. Grow Bigger Than Bitterness and Petty Squabbles
If you get down and quarrel everyday, you’re saying prayers to the devil.
If you bear grudges and always get involved in petty arguments and squabbles, you will not only get weighed down mentally and emotionally, you will be frittering away productive time.
Besides being unproductive, it’s very hard for creativity to be unleashed when the mind is cluttered by all sorts of negative emotions.
For the mind to function optimally, we need to always be in a positive mindset, or at least lucid. It is why artists or musicians find a lot of inspiration in serene environments like the beach.
Sometimes, it’s not our fault that we get involved in squabbles, it might just be that we are surrounded by too many negative people. Therefore, we might need to change our environments or reevaluate our relationships.
6. Focus on Self Improvement (Stop Unhealthy Competition)
The goal is not to be better than the other man, but your previous self.
This is one of my best personal growth tips, because, if we must truly grow and succeed, we must do so by constantly focusing on being better versions of ourselves and not by competing with anyone else.
Two main counterproductive things can happen when we are driven by unhealthy rivalry or competition:
- We can easily get discouraged and lose our motivation – No matter how hard we try, there is always likely to be someone better than us. And comparing ourselves – unhealthily – to these people is not just unfair, it is unwise. Sometimes, someone might only be better because they started long before us or because they have access to some resources that we may not currently have. It might even be that we are more talented than them and only need to work hard and be consistent.
- On the other hand, there is also the possibility of having a false sense of accomplishment or even setting our bar too low if we are comparing ourselves to those we are better, or to a mediocre.
I have curated this awesome list of Self Improvement bestselling books to get you started.
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7. Develop a Reading Culture
Most people who decide to grow personally find their first mentors in the pages of books.
The easiest – and wisest – way to grow and be successful is to learn from successful people. And the easiest way to learn from successful people is to read their books or journals.
Reading their biographies or autobiographies is as beneficial as reading books they deliberately authored to teach or share their insights on Self Improvement topics such as Personal growth, Success, or Leadership.
Detailed accounts of their personal lives reveal struggles and foibles you might have never imagined they had, and that gives you hope that you, too, can succeed in spite of your present struggles or ordinariness. You will not only learn, you will be encouraged.
So, whether you want to read mentorship books of these great people or their autobiographies, start today.
8. Never Give Up
A winner is a dreamer who never gives up.
Talent is never enough, nor is desire; to be successful, we need to be resilient and never give up.
Many of the successful people we admire today had to overcome many adversities, sometimes at the risk of their lives, to achieve their dreams.
Nelson Mandela had to endure 27 years of imprisonment, before becoming president of South Africa, to fulfil his dream of ending institutionalized system of white supremacy and racial segregation in his country.
Lionel Messi, diagnosed with growth Hormone Deficiency (GHD), overcame stunted growth as a young boy to become arguably the world’s best soccer player ever.
9. Always back yourself
I don’t like to gamble, but if there’s one thing I’m willing to bet on, it’s myself.
I just wrote about never giving up, but one of the things that serve as a catalyst for remaining steadfast is having a huge doze of belief in one’s self and one’s convictions.
All the people who have gone on to achieve greatness, especially in the face of grave adversities, would not have done so if they didn’t believe in themselves.
If you don’t believe in yourself, even mere criticisms could cause you to give up on your dreams.
Summing it all up…
It’s now obvious it takes a whole lot more than talent and desire to succeed, it will need a lot of personal development and I hope these personal growth tips will set you well on your way.
What other personal growth tips do you know? Please share in the comments below.