ways boost self-esteem

Our Self-esteem, to a large extent, influences our happiness and success: In this post, I will share some ways you can boost and maintain a healthy self-esteem.

But first, let’s briefly look at what self-esteem is.

Self-esteem is the overall way we feel about ourselves. It is how we perceive ourselves. We all have some moments of self-doubt. However, when this lingers, it can lead to emotional and social problems like shyness, indecisiveness, aloofness and, ultimately, depression.

How, then, can we get out of this negative spiral?

1. Be kinder and more useful to others

There is a feel-good factor that comes with knowing that people respect and value you because of how kind and helpful you are to them. Therefore, the more you focus on adding value to others, the better your self-esteem.

Indebtedness does the opposite – it chips away your confidence.

2. Discover your uniqueness and appreciate it

When we admire others, it is usually because they exhibit certain impressive qualities.

In the same vein, to boost our self-esteem, we need to discover our own special qualities – everyone has – and develop and showcase them.

3. Be more circumspect in your actions and words

A great deal of our esteem derives from people’s perception of us and perception is influenced by how we comport ourselves. It is, therefore, vital to always be mindful of our actions or words, especially when we are angry or upset.

Behaving intemperately when we are emotionally charged will most likely embarrass us in our lucid moment.

4. Surround yourself with positive people

Being around people who support us mentally and emotionally and generally offer positive words makes us feel good and more confident.

5. Control your use of social media

Comparing ourselves to others is one sure-fire way to develop low self-esteem and no where is the negative comparison more rife than on social media.

Therefore, if you find yourself feeling inferior and unhappy because of your social media usage, you might want to consider doing away with it altogether or, at least, refine your exposure.

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When you make a mistake, respond to yourself in a loving way rather than a self-shaming way.
Ellie Holcomb

6. Don’t beat yourself up

Criticizing ourselves incessantly after a mistake or failure will not change the situation, it will only eat away at our self-esteem. So, instead of beating ourselves up, we should take the lessons from the event, move on and do better in future.

7. Improve your physical appearance

It is not vain to improve a certain physical feature or appearance in general to make us feel better and more confident.

For example, scheduled teeth-scaling and polishing can boost our confidence and make us more comfortable socializing. The compliments people pay us will certainly improve our self-esteem, too.

As the popular saying goes:

The way you dress is the way people address you

8. Become knowledgeable

I don’t know anything that earns people respect more than demonstration of knowledge and competence.

The smartest kid in the room, even from a tender age, is usually more confident than his peers.

No one knows everything; but, we should also not be someone who can’t make a significant contribution to any semblance of a cerebral discussion or be that guy who always fumbles in his own line of specialization – it will erode your confidence.

Over to you:

In what other ways do you think one can boost self-esteem?

Please share thoughts in the comments below.



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  1. I love the concept of this post, a healthy self esteem can do so much for you, controlling your social media and surrounding yourself with positive people are my favourite points

  2. I love the concept of this post, a healthy self esteem can do so much for you, i think managing your social media and surrounding yourself with positive people are so important

  3. HEEEEEY the first tip is a whole journey of recovery-do it again-recover-do ti all over again-forgive and do it again! But yeah valuable that you set that one as the first ting!

  4. Your first point really goes with one of my mantra- Be kinder and more useful to others. It’s so important to be kind and helpful in a world that isn’t fighting to uplift us. I am a firm believer that your kindness comes back around to you. The good you put out comes back to you. Thanks for a great post and that reminder.

  5. You can never go wrong with kindness. I love surrounding myself with positive people too. The people you surround yourself with play a big role in cultivating self-esteem

  6. These are amazing tips. Social media can destroy a person more than it can build, the easiest way of not seeing the mean things people say is to limit the use of it and yes surrounding yourself with positive people.

  7. I always tell people how important it is to boost your self esteem! Confidence is everything… it makes a whole lot of difference when you are confident. I believe in surrounding yourself with positive people helps a lot!

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