Our Self-esteem, to a large extent, influences our happiness and success: In this post, I will share some ways you can boost and maintain a healthy self-esteem.
But first, let’s briefly look at what self-esteem is.
Self-esteem is the overall way we feel about ourselves. It is how we perceive ourselves. We all have some moments of self-doubt. However, when this lingers, it can lead to emotional and social problems like shyness, indecisiveness, aloofness and, ultimately, depression.
How, then, can we get out of this negative spiral?
1. Be kinder and more useful to others
There is a feel-good factor that comes with knowing that people respect and value you because of how kind and helpful you are to them. Therefore, the more you focus on adding value to others, the better your self-esteem.
Indebtedness does the opposite – it chips away your confidence.
2. Discover your uniqueness and appreciate it
When we admire others, it is usually because they exhibit certain impressive qualities.
In the same vein, to boost our self-esteem, we need to discover our own special qualities – everyone has – and develop and showcase them.
3. Be more circumspect in your actions and words
A great deal of our esteem derives from people’s perception of us and perception is influenced by how we comport ourselves. It is, therefore, vital to always be mindful of our actions or words, especially when we are angry or upset.
Behaving intemperately when we are emotionally charged will most likely embarrass us in our lucid moment.
4. Surround yourself with positive people
Being around people who support us mentally and emotionally and generally offer positive words makes us feel good and more confident.
5. Control your use of social media
Comparing ourselves to others is one sure-fire way to develop low self-esteem and no where is the negative comparison more rife than on social media.
Therefore, if you find yourself feeling inferior and unhappy because of your social media usage, you might want to consider doing away with it altogether or, at least, refine your exposure.
- Read more on Social Media and self-esteem here
When you make a mistake, respond to yourself in a loving way rather than a self-shaming way.
6. Don’t beat yourself up
Criticizing ourselves incessantly after a mistake or failure will not change the situation, it will only eat away at our self-esteem. So, instead of beating ourselves up, we should take the lessons from the event, move on and do better in future.
7. Improve your physical appearance
It is not vain to improve a certain physical feature or appearance in general to make us feel better and more confident.
For example, scheduled teeth-scaling and polishing can boost our confidence and make us more comfortable socializing. The compliments people pay us will certainly improve our self-esteem, too.
As the popular saying goes:
The way you dress is the way people address you
8. Become knowledgeable
I don’t know anything that earns people respect more than demonstration of knowledge and competence.
The smartest kid in the room, even from a tender age, is usually more confident than his peers.
No one knows everything; but, we should also not be someone who can’t make a significant contribution to any semblance of a cerebral discussion or be that guy who always fumbles in his own line of specialization – it will erode your confidence.
Over to you:
In what other ways do you think one can boost self-esteem?
Please share thoughts in the comments below.