I haven’t come across anyone who doesn’t desire to be happier or be more successful in life. Having the desire, however, is one thing, finding the discipline to commit to lasting changes for the better is another.
Nonetheless, improving our lives as we desire should not be so daunting if we adopt the right approach. For a start, instead of trying to make reactionary, radical changes, we should start with small, practical steps.
Here are some attitudinal changes you can make right away for significant life improvements.
1. Start taking responsibility
The first thing we have to do to become better versions of ourselves is to take ownership of our lives – own our decisions, successes, insecurities, and failures.
Taking responsibility for our lives doesn’t mean we should not rely on others for help or support, it just means that we should always begin by looking inwards and maximizing our innate abilities before looking to leverage others.
That way, we will not only discover our potentials, there will be no limit to what we can achieve. It also means that when we falter or fail, our first instinct is to evaluate what we did wrong, or could have done better, instead of pointing fingers at others.
Accepting personal responsibility for your life frees you from outside influences increases your self-esteem, boosts confidence in your ability to make decisions, and ultimately leads to success in life
Roy T. Bennett
2. Embrace Gratitude
Being always grateful does not mean our lives are all rosy, it just means that regardless of our problems or trials, we choose to focus on the good aspects, so that we can draw inspiration from them and face the future with optimism and imagination.
Whether we’re showing gratitude to God – counting our blessings – or showing gratitude to our helpers, we will always stand a better chance of succeeding than having a culture of constant murmuring.
I have noticed that whenever I wake up in the morning, happy for just being alive and in good health, I tend to face that day with lots of positive energy and I’m usually able to think more creatively.
Similarly, expressing our gratitude to loved ones or those who help us along the way will further engender goodwill that we can again leverage in future.
Gratitude opens your eyes to the limitless possibilities of the universe, while dissatisfaction closes your eyes to it.
3. Use time more accountably
This is one easily overlooked but very simple and important attitudinal change that anyone who wants to create a life they truly desire should begin with. We all, by virtue of being alive, spend time everyday but not everyone uses time accountably and deliberately.
To be honest, this is one area where I also struggle.
This quote by Thomas Jefferson captures it well:
Determine never to be idle. No person will have occasion to complain of the want of time who never loses any. It is wonderful how much can be done if we are always doing.
Decide today to start accounting for your time, every single day, and you will see how much progress you would have made in your life as a whole and in specific areas that you may target.
This is my third attempt at a Self Improvement blog. What has kept me coming back? Passion. What made the previous two fail? CONSISTENCY.
I could churn out good articles – I had one that went viral on Reddit, and I wasn’t even the one who posted it there – but to commit to writing consistently was a challenge I just couldn’t overcome.
The problem was a combination of procrastination (could be termed laziness, too), the poor time accountability which I just wrote about, and the tendency to always want to deliver a perfect article.
However, as Robert Collier said:
Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in day out.
The best in this niche – or any other industry – for example, are not necessarily those whose every article have gone viral but those who have stayed consistent and delivered even when they were lacking inspiration or simply didn’t feel like writing – Positivity Blog and Marc and Angel are good examples.
To make lasting changes for significant life improvements, we need to be consistent in whatever we are doing.
If we focus on helping others and adding value to them, we will learn more, grow better, and build healthier and longer-lasting relationships than being self-centered. We will also feel more useful, and this will ultimately make us happier, too.
Nothing exalts the soul or gives it a sheer sense of buoyancy and victory so much as being used to change the lives of other people
E. Stanley Jones
Organizations and individuals who are passionate about making lives better are always more successful, in the long run, than those whose primary motive is profit?
There are a number of reasons for this:
- Value attracts value
- Genuine interest in people and their problems helps us learn and grow
- Solving problems engenders goodwill
- People are more interested in our success and sustainability when we are useful to them
- We build trust, and trust is a catalyst for growth
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